AR - Action plan
An ongoing & developing plan. Will be updated and edited regularly. Hopefully, I remember to update the post date and add dates for new information throughout the process.
AR Journal / Notes - Week 3
Breaking the cycle of blame requires taking full responsibility for how we withhold love. Discover how shifting from self-protection to selfless grace transforms both marriage and character.
Dragged Through the FUCKING Coals
A raw, unvarnished surrender to brutal self-reckoning. Caught between spiritual exhaustion and the fierce desire to protect his marriage, a man confronts his own shortcomings—acknowledging the grueling pain of real transformation, the depth of his wife’s devotion, and the urgent clock ticking on his own redemption.
Connection, Comfort and Control
I used to treat minor marital conflicts as excuses to fall back into destructive habits—like watching pornography. Looking back on a recent conversation with my son about connection versus comfort, I’m confronting a hard truth: my bad choices were strictly my responsibility, not the result of my wife’s defense mechanisms. Here is how taking extreme ownership of my past behavior is helping me break free from excuses and rebuild trust.
AR Journal - Week 2
An honest look at how childhood exposure, lack of moral boundaries, and stress contributed to porn addiction, and the pivotal moment that led to active recovery and healing in marriage.